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Delete teh thread.

Don't do it, and not for any of the reasons you've listed above.

You made note of the "nice guy" fallacy.  What "nice guys" fail to realize is that they rarely give two shits about what the girl in question feels.  Woah woah, I know what's going through your head.  And it's because you're the nice guy that you're thinking it.  But really, look at your question.

1. A girl is interested in my friend.
2. My brother dated this girl and has residual interest.
3. I'm interested in this girl.

So, by asking out this girl, you're worried about screwing over your Eddie and David.  Yet you forget about the girl - she's interested in Eddie.  She's already told you this.  If she was interested in you, she would have kept that secret or not told you that she's interested in Eddie.

Helpful Hint: If a girl tells you they are interested in somebody else, it means they are not interested in you.

The second part of the "nice guy" fallacy is that you're obviously over-thinking things.  Over-thinking means procrastinating.  You've admitted that you've never dated a girl, so that tells me enough.  It's difficult for you to ask girls out.  Okay, let's move on to the heart of my advice.

If you are interested, despite everything I've already said, just ask her out.  Don't beat around the bush, don't plan it, don't bring her flowers, and don't give a damn about Eddie and David.  If they cared, they should have asked her out instead (which, in the race for love, is what often happens to the "nice guy").  Don't overdo it.  Don't make it a life or death question.

Just ask, "Hey, wanna get dinner this weekend?"

Girls are intelligent.  They know what that means and, if she asks anything else, just say, "Yeah, just the two of us."

All you're doing is testing the waters.  That's all a date is.  If you're not compatible or she's not interested, she'll say so.  And, FYI, if she's not interested, it means you're not compatible.  Both parties must be interested for there to be compatibility.  Your overwhelming affection will not make her suddenly feel interested.

(That's another fallacy of the "nice guy" theory.)

Now, I do apologize if this has been overbearing.  I've coached too many friends through this issue, as I tend to be friends with the "nice guy." And if any of this is not true, take it with a grain of salt. I speak only through my experience, and only with the knowledge I have gained around this subject.  Which, unfortunately, has become substantial.

Cheers,

Quote from: The CrakmonoDon't do it, and not for any of the reasons you've listed above.

You made note of the "nice guy" fallacy.  What "nice guys" fail to realize is that they rarely give two shits about what the girl in question feels.  Woah woah, I know what's going through your head.  And it's because you're the nice guy that you're thinking it.  But really, look at your question.

1. A girl is interested in my friend.
2. My brother dated this girl and has residual interest.
3. I'm interested in this girl.

So, by asking out this girl, you're worried about screwing over your Eddie and David.  Yet you forget about the girl - she's interested in Eddie.  She's already told you this.  If she was interested in you, she would have kept that secret or not told you that she's interested in Eddie.

Helpful Hint: If a girl tells you they are interested in somebody else, it means they are not interested in you.

The second part of the "nice guy" fallacy is that you're obviously over-thinking things.  Over-thinking means procrastinating.  You've admitted that you've never dated a girl, so that tells me enough.  It's difficult for you to ask girls out.  Okay, let's move on to the heart of my advice.

If you are interested, despite everything I've already said, just ask her out.  Don't beat around the bush, don't plan it, don't bring her flowers, and don't give a damn about Eddie and David.  If they cared, she should have asked her out instead (which, in the race for love, is what often happens to the "nice guy").  Don't overdo it.  Don't make it a life or death question.

Just ask, "Hey, wanna get dinner this weekend?"

Girls are intelligent.  They know what that means and, if she asks anything else, just say, "Yeah, just the two of us."

All you're doing is testing the waters.  That's all a date is.  If you're not compatible or she's not interested, she'll say so.  And, FYI, if she's not interested, it means you're not compatible.  Both parties must be interested for there to be compatibility.  Your overwhelming affection will not make her suddenly feel interested.

(That's another fallacy of the "nice guy" theory.)

Now, I do apologize if this has been overbearing.  I've coached too many friends through this issue, as I tend to be friends with the "nice guy." And if any of this is not true, take it with a grain of salt. I speak only through my experience, and only with the knowledge I have gained around this subject.  Which, unfortunately, has become substantial.

Cheers,

excellent advice :)

Excellent advice.

Oh no... he just did it... he just named it "delete this thread". By CBG rules ishy and all others with delete powers are banned from ever deleting it and it will furthermore become a repository for spam.

Quote from: NomadicOh no... he just did it... he just named it "delete this thread". By CBG rules ishy and all others with delete powers are banned from ever deleting it and it will furthermore become a repository for spam.

Quote from: NomadicOh no... he just did it... he just named it "delete this thread". By CBG rules ishy and all others with delete powers are banned from ever deleting it and it will furthermore become a repository for spam.

Why has this not been made so? WHY?!?

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